Congratulations, you’re engaged! Now it’s time to decide where you’re getting married and who you’re going to invite. But… where do you even start? Chef David Heide poses a great question in the article below: What came first, the budget or the guest count? Heide is a highly acclaimed local chef, and owner of both Liliana’s in Fitchburg and Charlie’s on Main in Oregon. Today he’s sharing 5 reasons why you should consider trimming your guest list to close family and friends – for both your sanity and your budget.
5 Reasons to Plan an Intimate Wedding From Chef David Heide:
1. What came first, the budget or the guest count?
You will most likely determine the budget for your wedding before you put together a guest list. Having a smaller guest list means that you’re able to invest your budget into things that your guests care about (like the food and the booze), rather than trying to spread your dollar out.
2. How important is the food that people are eating?
Statistics show time and time again, that food is one of the most memorable parts of a wedding for guests. With a shorter guest list, it’s easier to put a little more money into your menu to make it something truly memorable.
3. How much time do you want to spend with each guest?
This is one of my favorite questions to ask a bride. After considering it for a moment, they typically and humbly reply with a new question of their own… “Five minutes?” Five minutes is longer than you think, but with 250 people that is 1250 minutes, or a little over 20 hours. Even if you shrink that down to just a mere 60 seconds per person, you still spend nearly 4 and a half hours talking to 250 guests. That doesn’t include time for your dance, ceremony, eating, toasts, speeches or cake. A smaller guest list allows for a more intimate and fun experience, not just for your close friends and family, but for you as well.
4. How often do you think you will have all of your guests in a room together again?
This is one of the few opportunities for both families to meet each other. With a smaller, more intimate wedding, you can create an atmosphere where your guests are able to really get to know each other rather than trying to make it around the room for introductions.
5. Have you been invited to a wedding before?
I would assume that you have. What was the first thing that ran through your mind? Were you dancing up and down in your bathrobe? My guess is that unless it was a very close relative, or a best friend, the first thought revolved around logistics and financial investment (outfit, travel, gift, accommodations and possibly childcare). A wedding invitation is a huge obligation. Your closest friends and family are the people who will consider celebration before obligation upon receiving their invitation. And they are the people you should be spending the precious minutes noted above sharing your day with. The rest of your potential guest list would likely be just as happy getting a notification in the mail with a note that you opted for a small wedding. This way they feel included and you don’t have to feel guilty about cutting your guest list.
At the end of the day, your wedding is just that; a celebration of your love, and you should celebrate it however it best reflects you. Our team at Charlie’s on Main and Liliana’s would be happy to help you create a memorable day that celebrates your unique story.