Our very organized bride blogger, Keri, continues our series with tips to reduce wedding stress. She and fiance Rob are getting married on New Year’s Eve and have taken a very detailed yet relaxed approach to wedding planning. Here are 5 helpful tips to guide your planning and help you focus on what’s truly important. Tell us what you would add in the comments!
Wedding planning can be stressful. If you are like me, you want every detail to be perfect and ensure your big day goes off without a hitch (who doesn’t?). But, if you find that the details are turning you into a Bridezilla (we have probably all been there at some point), reevaluate your priorities along with how you are staying organized. Wedding planning should be fun after all! Read on for my tips on how I have stayed organized and sane during this journey.
1. Use an organization system that works for you.
A big thank you to my “soon-to-be” sister in-law that was willing to share the wedding tool she made for her wedding. I took what she created and made some tweaks to fit my needs for planning. This wedding spreadsheet tool has been a lifesaver for me. It has ALL of the information for our wedding day in one place (budget, guest list, gift tracker, contact list, timeline, vendor contacts, etc.) and can be shared online with my fiancé, family, and bridal party. In an upcoming blog post, there will be more details about this tool and a way to download this spreadsheet for your own use!
2. Work as a team.
At MY wedding, during MY wedding, I hope MY wedding… You get my point. This wedding is about more than just you. Not only are you committing yourself to your significant other but you are joining two families together. Share wedding planning duties with your partner. Make sure you partner is part of the planning process (remember it is their day too) and their ideas are incorporated into the wedding. Communicating throughout the process will help to foresee and avoid any future problems.
3. Stay true to who you are as a couple.
Nothing you do at your wedding will seem weird, odd, or out of place if it reflects who you are as a couple. Just remember, a lot of wedding “traditions” actually have an interesting and unique origin. For example, the idea of the bridal bouquet originated as a solution to mask the odor of the bride (since they bathed so infrequently). Many of the wedding “traditions” we think are so necessary and eternal, have only originated in the past 200 years. Think outside of the box and don’t feel confined to traditional wedding etiquette.
4. Set a budget and keep everything in perspective.
Think back to the last few weddings you have attended. What do you remember? The location, the food and drink, dancing, and most importantly if you had fun or not. You probably don’t remember the centerpieces at your cousins wedding, or that your friend paid an extra $1,000 for special tablecloths, in fact I couldn’t tell you what the tablecloths looked like at any wedding I have ever been to! It is easy to get caught up in the hype of the perfect “Pinterest” wedding. When you are feeling pressure that you “need” to add something to your wedding budget, step back and ask yourself if it will truly matter at the end of the day.
5. Make decisions and move on:
Ah, Pinterest. There is such a wealth of information and ideas available online that I found myself going crazy looking at websites and seeing new ideas. Once you have decided on your wedding dress, venue, colors, etc. then stop looking at those items online. Just know that what you chose will be perfect for your wedding.
These are just a few tips and tricks I have found that have helped me stay sane during the planning process. Remember the most important tip: stay present during the process and have fun!
How are you staying organized while wedding planning? Tell us in the comments below. And if you need a little help in the detail department – fear not – Keri will be sharing her wedding planning spreadsheet with you in her next post. Stay tuned!