Finding balance during your engagement might seem like an impossible task, but today bride blogger Michelle is sharing insight to face the challenge! Really soak in those last two sentences, sweet brides-to-be. Her advice is so, so true. She and her fiance, Dustin are planning a May 19th wedding at Century Barn and we can’t wait to see their beautiful day come together. Cheers!
As I sit down to write this blog, less than two months away from the big day, I had to pause for a moment to really reflect on our engagement. I thought about the simple parts, the stressful parts but mostly the joyful parts of wedding planning and being engaged. My hope is to share with you how I have stayed in the moment and enjoyed this unique, once in a lifetime experience. What you read may or may not help you; that’s okay. We all have different personalities and unique needs. I do hope that at least one part stands out to you and helps you look beyond the decisions, emails, and vendor dates and allows you to truly appreciate what matters most.
You just got engaged – CELEBRATE! When we first got engaged someone said to us “you get to be married forever but you only get to be fiancés for a short amount of time”. Before you start scouring wedding planning books, inspiration magazines and websites, take one week (or more time if you have it!) for yourselves. There will be plenty of time for all the wedding planning you can handle in the months to come. We set aside one week to share our happiness with friends, family and each other. Those are some of our most fond memories looking back. The uninterrupted time together was well worth it, even if we did have to say we didn’t know a date or even a year for the big day quite yet!
When we got engaged we quickly decided that we would be getting married almost exactly one year later…talk about pressure on to find a venue! We needed to book a venue soon but we also would not settle for anything less than our vision for our big day. In order to accomplish this, I would skip my morning workout and go to a venue tour early in the morning before work. I would wake up at about 5 am, go check out a few barns and then head into work for the day. By doing this a couple different times, we had our venue booked within just a few weeks! It was tempting to want to continue to do other planning in the same way. I quickly shut this thought down because I knew I needed my normal morning routine in order to feel good and feel like myself. Long story short, don’t be afraid to switch up your normal routines but do go back to what works for you as soon as you can.
You might be a bride like me and want to do all the planning yourself. I had a vision for how I wanted everything to look, feel, taste and probably even smell. This made it difficult for me to ask others for their time and input and I often feared I was inconveniencing them when I did. Later in the process, I realized that I just simply didn’t have the time to do it on my own and started making small to do lists for others. I realized that giving tasks to my fiancé and family was not only helpful to me, but empowering for them too. They actually wanted to help and feel like their opinions were valued during the wedding planning process. They were just waiting for me to pass the baton and let them in.
The last piece of information I can give, is remember why you are doing all this planning – because you found the person you want to spend forever with! Keep that in the forefront of your mind and remember to continue to keep your relationship a priority. Step away from the planning when it feels stressful or just plain not fun. Then, step into the things that fill up your cup.