Bride Blogger Michelle got married at Century Barn on May 19th. We recently shared her wedding gallery, where you’ll see that she definitly took her own advice below! Your wedding is meant to celebrate your unique love story. Here are five ways to personalize your day!
When you think of weddings, you might think of traditions. Or about people trying to “out do” others. But hopefully you think about the things that make a wedding memorable, sentimental or unique. Luckily, we live in a time where wedding norms are changing rapidly. Of course, it depends on your culture, religion and region but overall I feel like things have loosened up quite a bit. You don’t “have-to” do a bouquet toss these days and to be honest, a lot of people won’t even notice that those kinds of things are missing! Every wedding that I have attended has been unique and special in its own way and I can’t tell you all the exact reasons of why or how. There are so many areas to explore when you start thinking about how to personalize your day and make it truly your own.
Let’s start with the fun part: the bar.
We’ve all been at weddings with signature drinks before. I know it’s nothing new but this is one opportunity to be a little goofy and a little honest. Truly pick your signature drinks! Maybe you don’t like alcohol, pick a root beer float! Maybe you and your spouse’s favorites are both made with vodka, go for it anyways! Maybe share a drink that you came up with yourself and even give it it’s own name! On that note, if you have any close friends or family who brew beer or make wine, see if they will make a special batch just for your wedding! My Dad has been brewing beer for years and when I asked him to brew some for our wedding, he was already working on starting to gather the ingredients and name the beer. He ended up naming it “Wedding Bell’s Ale” and wrote a description of it that we framed by the bar. It was a total hit and the keg was empty well before cocktail hour was over!
Second, let’s talk ceremony.
This is the meat and potatoes of your day! The most heartfelt, amazing part. The ability to customize here largely depends on your officiant. Depending on how much wiggle room they give you (and how much you want to take), here are a few ideas. Write your own vows. If you aren’t allowed to do this during your ceremony, you could always write them in a letter to your partner. Writing you vows not only personalizes your ceremony but it also fosters reflection on your relationship and expectations. Pick music that not only sounds great but has a special meaning to the two of you. This could be using your favorite artists, a group or person that you enjoy listening to, or a group of your favorite instruments such as a quartet. Use a unity symbol that represents a bond that the two of you share. Maybe a common interest or hobby, food or beverage. Anything that you can mix together, tie together or consume together will usually do the trick.
Saving the best for last here. Serving food that is your favorite, from your culture or from your dietary preferences is a great way to show your guests a glimpse of your life. Think favorite snacks for appetizers at cocktail hour or late night bite. A traditional recipe can often be made by a catering company and served to the masses. Be sure to find a sign or have an announcement to explain the special recipe. If farm to table or veganism is important to you, find ways to incorporate your preferences into your guests’ meals. It will give them an appreciation for the great food you eat and also you will be spending your money in a way that is in line with your values.
Hopefully, some of these ideas sparked some inspiration inside of you to personalize your day! Make it your own, make it unique, make it what makes YOU happy.
Photos by Kallidoscope Photography.